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		<title>Passover: The Mystery of Seder Night</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Reb Shlomo shares with us how a house in this world does not need that much cleaning. But on Pesach, our house becomes the Third Temple. That is why we must clean this house, not only on this level, but on a higher level, so that it will be a true Temple, holy and beautiful, a gateway to G-d. On Pesach we are in heaven, we are in Yerushalayim. I am sitting with my wife and children. I wish you such a Pesach. Good Yom Tov.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I want to tell you a gevalt story which my brother told me an Chanuka. On the third day of Chanuka them was a bris (cimumcision) in Boro Park. The holy Bobover Rebbe was the sandek, and he told this story at the bris. Them was a woman in Brooklyn who was married fifteen years, and she was not blessed with children. She want from rebbe to rebbe, from tzaddik to tzaddik, from one to the other, but still she had no child. She did not know what to do with herself. Since she had a lot of time, she became a volunteer in a hospital, and there she discovered a woman who was all alone, who had nobody in the world. For two years she took care of her. After two years the woman left this world and she, the woman who didn&#8217;t have children, was there when she died. The dying woman said to her: &#8220;There is no way for me to thank you in this lifetime, for what you did for me. But, I promise you, the moment I go up to hmven, and stand before the Ribbono Shel Olam (G-d), I swer to you I will send you a baby.&#8221; The Bobover rebbe said: &#8220;The baby that was iust circumcised is this baby. He is a gift from that woman.&#8221; Unbelievable.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />O.K. Now I want to talk to you friends. There is exile, and then them is something even deeper than that, when you don&#8217;t know what to do and you don&#8217;t know where you belong. Exile means I live in Boro Park, I have a house, I have a business. But, something is missing, something is wrong. Deep deep inside I know that this is not where I belong. Somehow I know I have to be in Yerushalayim (Jerusalem), in the Holy City. I am not in the right place. Then there is something worse-slavery. I can&#8217;t even do what I want. Someone else is telling me what to do. Then them is something even deeper than all of this. There comes the point that I don&#8217;t know what to do. Not that somebody else is telling me what to do.  I don&#8217;t know myself what to do.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />The Bible says, &#8220;and darkness was on the face of the void, and the spirit of G-d hovered on the face of the waters&#8221;. There was darkness in the world, and the spirit of G-d was hovering over the waters. The Midrash says that this is the spirit of Mashiach. Then the Bible says: &#8220;And G-d said, &#8216;let there be light&#8221;&#8216;. I want to say here, and we will return to this again, that obviously when G-d said &#8220;let there be light&#8221; this light meant redemption. We always talk about the light of redemption. To be in exile means I have everything, but it is dark. Everything is there, even when my house is dark, everything is still there, but I can&#8217;t find it. I don&#8217;t know where it is. I have everything, and it&#8217;s dark.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Sometimes this happens between people too. Marriage can be an exile, friendship can be an exile. You us here, I am there, we can&#8217;t find each other. So, what keeps us going until the light of redemption? &#8220;And G-d&#8217;s spirit was upon the waters.&#8221; Somehow, we are smelling the redemption. Hovering means it&#8217;s there and it&#8217;s not there. Like those great moments when I experience a little bit of redemption. And after that will come actual redemption. The headquarters for that mashiach moment is seder night. Whenver I am, I might be in prison, I might be in Aushwitz, but that one night I taste mashiach, I am tasting the complete redemption.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I want you to know something so deep. Why don&#8217;t we really invite guests, the right way? When I am at somebody else&#8217;s house, I cannot invite guests. How do I know who is the master of the house? If I see twelve people in a house, I don&#8217;t know who is the baal habayis (master of the house). But, if I knock on a door, and someone invites me to come in, that is the one who is the master of the house. I want to say a gevalt Torah. In order to fulfill the mitzah of hachnasat orchim (welcoming guests), you have to feel at home where you are. And, when I feel at home, then I can invite guests. Why is Friday night so special for us? Why Shabbos? Because, everybody knows, on Shabbos I am not in exile. Shabbos, every Jew is in Eretz Yisrael (Israel). Shabbos the house belongs to me. So, when I am at home, I can invite guests.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />There is no greater inviting of guests than seder night. That night, a Jew knows that wherever I am, that is my home. When do I feel most that I do not have a home? When I have children. Children cannot grow up in the street. They need a house. Seder night I am providing a home for them. Then my children can came and talk to me. They say, I know you were always afraid to look me in the eye, because you always thought, I should have a house for you. Tonight you have a house, and I can come and talk to you.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />This Torah I heard from my friend, Rabbi Polin, from Boston, one of my best friends. He said why did the galut (Exile) begin with Yitzchak (Isaac)? When do you need a house most? When you have children. When a child is born, that is the time you sense that you are not at home.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />What really is exile between people? Exile is when I want to give you something with all my heart, but you only want fifty percent. I will still give it to you, because I love you. But, why didn&#8217;t you take the whole thing? Why didn&#8217;t you take it the way it is?<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I want you to know a Torah which I have been privileged to hear in the name of the Holy Mai Hashiloach. The gemara says that when Rabbi Haninah ben Dosa was at the end, when he was hungry and thirsty, there was no food in the house, he cried. Suddenly the Ribbeno Shel Olam sent him one golden foot. A foot of a table. That night he dreamt that he was in Gan Eden (paradise) and he had a chair, and a table, but the table had only three feet. He realized that the Ribbono Shel Olam was taking off a little bit from him in Gan Eden to give it to him in this world. He said, &#8220;Ribbono Shel Olam, please don&#8217;t do this to me. Take it back.&#8221; And the gemara says that a hand came from heaven and took it back. The holy Mai HasMloach, the holy Ishbitzer, asked this question. The gemara says that G-d only gives; He doesn&#8217;t take back. So how could He take it back? So he says that the moment something comes into this world, it is already so defiled that G-d can&#8217;t take it back. It&#8217;s like when you buy a suit, after you wear it, you cannot give it back. But, Haninah ben Dosa was so holy that, even after he received it, it was still holy.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />When somebody gives me something and I say I want to make it more beautiful, do you know what that mens? It means I don&#8217;t really want it the way he gave it to me. I want to do my own thing with it. Take bread. G-d gives me wheat, and I say, its good, but I want to do my own thing with it, I want to improve it. I make it Chumetz (leaven). But, I am not receiving it the way it came down from heaven. Matza is actually the way it is mniing down from heaven, Matzo means, the wheat is growing in the field, we put in a little water, and this is food the way it is coming down from heaven.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I want to say a gevalt Torah. Imagine, you give me food; I set a few spoonfuls of it, and put it away, I am not eating it the way you gave it to me. The downfall of the world began when G-d said to Adam, eat these fruits, and Adam samid, no, I want to eat the apple. The apple was also from G-d, but that is not the way G-d wanted to give it to him. If you remember, Adam, the first man, said I receive food, life, in this world, like Haninah ben Dosa, full of life like it is straight from heaven I take bread from heaven and I bring it down to this world. It&#8217;s not so holy any more. You knew what death is? Something is missing, Everything is there, the body is there, but something is missing. The soul is missing. Seder night is the night that we eat matza, we receive everything from heaven the way it is.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Abraham was the first person who was told that Jews will eventually be redeemed. Exile is I receive everything, but not 100%. Seder night is when I do receive everything 100%. Why is it when I am a poor Jew, I will give him five dollars, yet when I see Rothschild I will make a great feast, and spend hundreds of dollars? Because, the poor Jew I see on the level of five dollars. but I have much respect for Rothschild. What was the first test, after G-d made a covenant with Abraham? How would he receive three pagans?<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Sometimes children are crying because we don&#8217;t receive them right. Children are a gift to us from heaven. Are we receiving them like Haninah ben Dosa received that table leg from heaven? I wish we would. Abraham received Yitzhak on that level. The Akedah (sacrifice) is the acid test. How can anyone give back his son? He is already in this world. It was like Haninah ben Dosa. The Ribbono Shel Olam wanted to show Abraham. you know how holy Yitzchak is? I don&#8217;t want you to kill him &#8211; I just want you to know that to take care of children means that they are still as heavenly as when they were born.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Them is a gevalt story about Rabbi Levi of Berditchev. When his son, Reb Yisrael, was on his way to become one of the biggest Rebbes, when he was seventeen, he left this world. And Rabbi Levi Yitzchak of Berditzhev was walling behind him, and he was dancing. We have no idea of this kind of worship of G-d. The Hasidim asked him &#8220;How can you dance?&#8221; He answered: &#8220;The Ribbono Shel Olam sent to my house a holy soul. And I am giving it back as holy as I received it.&#8221; Awesome.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Why are people fighting each other? Fighting comes about when two people do not receive each other on the level of Haninah ben Dosa. You and I can have completely different ideas, but why do we fight each other? So, Reb Nachman says the deepest Torah in the world. When people have a disagreement in Eretz Yisrael, its the sweetest thing. It has a heavenly sweetness. If I say something, and someone has a different thought, what difference does it make? The Torah is so big. But, in exile, chutz laretz, when people disagree, they are really fighting. The Gemarah tells us that the Temple was destroyed because of sinas chinom (unprovoked hatred). You know what that means? Reb Nachman says that the moment that you fight, you are already in chutz laaretz, &#8221; you are not in Eretz Yisroel. The Temple can&#8217;t exist outside Eretz Yisrael.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Lets go one step deeper. Reb Simcha Bunim of Pshische said that Avraham aveinu had clear prophecy. He could have sat in Haran and looked at Eretz Yisrael -why did he have to actually go there? So, the Pshische tells us, Eretz Yisrael if there is no Jew there, has no face; it doesn&#8217;t look like anything, G-d said to Avraham: &#8220;I want to show you Eretz Yisrael but you have to be there first, one Jew has to be there. Otherwise, Eretz Yisrael has no face.&#8221; Gevalt. So, I add this: What was wrong with the spies? They saw how Eretz Yisrael looked without Jews. And they were right. It was a bad scene.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />In &#8217;59 I came to Eretz Yisrael for the first time. I was walking around in Tel Aviv, and I saw a Parisian bar. and went in to see  what it was about. Now, what am barmaids for? They are supposed to get you drunk. So, a barmaid is sitting there and she is giving out whiskey. Suddenly she says, &#8220;Yankele, I will not give you another drink! Chm veshalom (G-d forbid), you will get drunk!&#8221; Reb Levi Yitzchak should have been there.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />So, the spies saw Eretz Yisroel without Jews. But Caleb and Joshua saw how Eretz Yisroel looks with Jews. A different kind of seeing. What is Israel without Jews? It is only half the size. Sometimes you see a person in the company of somebody else, and they us half their size. Sometimes, in the right company, you are really your size. Eretz Yisrael needs Jews. And Jews need Eretz Yisrael.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />The beginning of Yiddishkeit, Judaism, everybody knows, is Seder, night, That is the night when Avraham Aveinu sits in the doorway of his tent, when the angels come to tell him he will have a son. Do you knew what a covenant is? It is that I am receiving G-d the way G-d is. We Jews did not write books on theology, books proving that there is one G-d. Because then we would be lowering G-d to the level of mathematical proof. That is Tree of Knowlege talk. For us G-d is something else.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />In exile, we shrink, everything shrinks. What is Exile all about? What is a slave? A slave is somebody who appears to be half his real size. He does everything, but really nothing. Where did it all begin? The lshbitzer says &#8220;, . . and he sent Judah before him&#8221; Yosef the tzaddik, the doer of mitzvot, sent Judah, who represents the blessing on the mitzvot, before him. You make the blessing before you do the mitzva. So, Judah is the blessing before the mitzva, and Yosef is the mitzva itself Yosef is the person who just wants to do the mitzva. Yehuda (Judah) wants more. He is like Haninah ben Dosa. When he is performing a mitzva, he wants to be connected to G-d. &#8220;Make me holy with Your mitzvot.&#8221; Every mitzva is holy. What does this mean? You can do a mitzva, but where is the heavenly mitzva? Where is the great light sening fmom heaven when you do a mitzva? Yosef the tzadik wants to do everything right. He does everything right. But Judah wants more. He wants something deeper, more heavenly.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Yaacov thought that Yosef was Mashiach. He bought him the colorful garment. You know what Judah did? He dipped the garment in blood. He said: &#8220;My dear brother, just by doing everything right, you don&#8217;t redeem the world. You have to go through so much pain, until it&#8217;s clear to you that you need much more. When do we realize that we need more? When we realize that whatever we have is not enough. You know, sometimes you are such good friends with somebody, and it doesn&#8217;t work. You know what the problem is? You have to be so much better, so much deeper, so much more.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Sedm night, one night a year, one night a year. We live in a world where we have to work our way up slowly, until we can come up to kedusha (holiness). Seder night I am ready for everything. I want the whole thing.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />You know why we lose touch with our kids? We think, they are little, so we will give than a little. But, they want the whole thing. Seder night we give them the whole thing.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I saw in a midrash that when &#8220;Judah approached him&#8221; &#8220;wayigash eilav Yehuda&#8221; this was on seder night. &#8220;Eilav&#8221; means &#8220;to him&#8221;, to the very depths of him.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />The Bible also says by Avraham &#8220;vayera eilav&#8221;. This was also on seder night. Here is a Torah from Shevet MiYehuda, that Avraham prayed that &#8220;Vayigwh eilav Yehuda&#8221; should be on seder night. The Ribbono Shel Olam was telling him that someday his granson will be &#8220;yigash eilav&#8221;, to him, to the deepest depths of his being. So, G-d revealed to Avraham that them is a way to reach another human being in the deepest way. G-d said to him: &#8220;Whatever I reached you so far is nothing yet. Tonight I will reach you much deeper.&#8221; And that is why Avraham was sitting in the doorway of his tent, to see if there where any people passing by. Avraham revealed that all the sinning in the world, all the mistakes, come from one thing. I didn&#8217;t reach you in the deepest depths.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />This is the essence of what I mean. If someone wants you on the outside, they only want a little piece. They don&#8217;t want au amund you. When something touchw me deeply, I want the whole thing.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I want you to know that seder night is one of the nights that my father made a Jew out of me, and my brother and my sister. I remember from the age of three we would sit by the seder and my father would say to us, &#8220;Children, tonight you am siting at G-d&#8217;s table. This is not my table. It is G-d&#8217;s table.&#8221;<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Avraham aveinu, the grant welcomer of guests to the whole world, is looking to see if there were people passing by. He prayed that there should be one night that the Ribbmo Shel Olam will be welcoming us to His place, to the Temple, and to Yerushalayim. And everybody knows that the midrash asks how could the Jews have eaten the Passover sacrifice outside Jerusalem? The midrash answers that clouds came by, picked up every Jew, and brought them to Jerusalem. Eretz Yisrael is the land where G-d is machnis orahim, welcoming as guests, us Jews. And, I want to add, seder night we learn from G-d that the way He is machnis orahim to us, we should be machnis orchim to each other.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />The truth is, Eretz Yisrael belongs to me. But, if something belongs to me, that does not mean that I am imitating somebody else. But if I received it only because someone was machnis orachim to me, than I can have no problem being machnis orchim to somebody else. The Bible says that when Mashiach comes then &#8220;My house shall be house of prayer for all nations.&#8221; Someday we shall be machnis orachim to the whole world. You know why we are not doing it yet, properly? Because we think that Eretz Yisroel belongs to us. The truth is that we are G-d&#8217;s guests in the land.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" /> Every Jew, the moment he arrives in Eretz Yisrael, can actually feel the the Schechina (G-d&#8217;s presence) sitting there, by the airport. And there is no question in my mind that every Jew, when the airplane lands in Eretz Yisrael, is a holy Jew, Something happens to his neshama. People who travel 20 times to Israel feel something each time, something different than they feel when they arrive in say, Paris, in Rome. You know what is so special? The way the Ribbono shel Olam sees us in Eretz Yisrael, He is part of us. Pharaoh said to Moses, take the men, and leave the children here. Moses answered, &#8220;We will go with our young and old, with our wives and children, because the way we are going to Israel, we need all of us. We can&#8217;t leave anything behind.&#8221;<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Why is going to the Mikva so purifying? Because in the mikva you have to be completely there. If even one hair is sticking out its not good.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Why is the red heifer purifying? Because even one hair cannot be white. It has to be completely red.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Now, let&#8217;s go back. Matza has two qualities. It is made very fast, and it is the way it is. I don&#8217;t add anything. I don&#8217;t have to add anything. I have the whole thing. I want you to know that anything I am involved in completely, I do so fast. It doesn&#8217;t take any time. By Pesach, we left so fast. We were completely involved in leaving.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Why is the seder called seder, order? There are two types of orders in the world. There is a tailor type of order. Slowly, slowly, the world cuts you into pieces. First they cut off your head, then your heart, then your soul. Until there is nothing left. Look what the world did to us Jews. Thus was a time when we stood at Mount Sinai. And then we became less and less.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />When are you most completely present? When there is no hatred in your heart. When there is no anger in your heart. The moment your heart is full of anger, you are not one hundred percent yourself anymore. The exile began with Yosef and his brothers. G-d does not punish. G-d just shows us where we we at. So, when Yosef said bad things about his  brothers, he was thrown in prison. In prison, a person is half his size. G-d showed Yosef that when you think badly of another person, you become half of yourself.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Sometimes, when you do something terrible, you have no place in the world anymore, &#8220;Vayigash elav Yehuda&#8221;, Yehudah approached him. Yehuda said, &#8220;Yosef, I have no more place in this world. I don&#8217;t have this world. I lost the coming world. I can&#8217;t see my father anymore. I have nothing anymore.&#8221; And this all took place seder night. That is the night that Yosef haTzadiq made up with his brothers. That is the night we will build the Third Temple. Because when Yaakov whole again? When he saw that all his children were alive. He was complete again.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Nothing makes us  complete than when our children ask us questions about Judaism, when they say to us, tell us what it means to be a Jew. Teach us all the depths of Judaism.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />There is a Torah like Yosef&#8217;s &#8211; to do what G-d wants us to do. And them is Yehuda&#8217;s Torah, the blessing on the mitzvos. I want to feel the holiness of the Mitzva. Like Haninah ben Dosa. I want the foot from heaven. Matzo is bread from heaven. The Tree of Life. When I am half my size, how do I know it if I never really met my whole self? So, we start with Matza. Matza is my whole self. As I eat more I come to realize how could I stand being half my size? How could I stand being so small and petty?<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />When Yosef asked &#8220;Is my father still living?&#8221; he really asked, am I still connected to Yaacov aveinu, am I still really there? Yosef asked his brothers all these questions And Yehudah approached him. Children ask their parents, and their parents ask G-d. The Hagadah says, &#8220;And here the son asks.&#8221; Here is the time that every Jew asks: &#8220;G-d, what will be with me? What will be with my children? What will be with the world?&#8221;<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />A human being welcoming guests means, you sitting in my house, and while you are eating, it is in my house. The way G -d welcomes us, He takes us in and gives it to us. Every time a Jew comes to Erutz Yisrael, G-d welcomes him. That is why we have mezuzos on our houses. We are saying to G-d, I want this house to be Your house, not just my house.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />There are two kinds of parents, Exile Parents and Eretz Yisrael parents, seder night parents. Exile parents say to children you are living in my house. Eretz Yisrael parents give the house to their G-d gives the house, and I give it to my children give it back to me<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Why is the bad son so angry, so bitter? Because nobody ever gave him anything, nobody ever gave him Eretz Yisrael. Seder night we are truly welcoming guests, we are really machnis orchim. Seder night there is so much love, so much sweetness. And after we eat together we open the door and say, &#8220;Pour out Your wrath&#8221;. Please, don&#8217;t ever let me go back to that world, to world that steals, which kills. I can&#8217;t bear it anymore. Before the seder I could bear it. But, after You healed me, You brought me out of Exile, please don&#8217;t ever put me back again.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I bless you and me, all of us, that whenever we we together with children it should be like after mashiach has come.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Before he left this world, Yaakov Aveinu talked to his children. Can you imagine how he was praying? &#8220;Ribbon Shel Olam, take care of my children until meshiach comes.&#8221; He called his children and said, &#8220;Chidren, come together I want talk to you and tell you what will happen until moshiach comes.&#8221; And, the midrash says that he wanted to tell them what was coming and the Shechina left him. Everybody knows that the Shechina did not pleave him as a punishment because he wanted to tell his children when Moshiach was coming. He wanted to tell them, &#8220;I want you hold out. Even when there is no Shechina. Even when there is nothing, even worse.&#8221; You know what he told them? Whenever father, mother and children get together, that will be on the level of when moshiach is coming. That will keep you going until Moshiach comes. And even the Shehina leaves, wherever father. mother and children sit together on Seder night, that will keep you going.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I don&#8217;t if there is a safer (book) in the world as precious as the haggadah. Even the musaf shomeh esreh of Rosh HaShana, when we pray for G-d&#8217;s Oneness to be revealed, is very holy, but the words of the hagaddah are even more precious. Eliyahu haNavi composed the haggadah.At every seder, Eliyahu haNavi comes in and thanks everybody for reading the words from his Haggadah.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />The &#8220;rasha&#8221;, the evil son, doesn&#8217;t know how precious he is. He doesn&#8217;t know how much we need him. The wise son is also very clever, but obviously he also doesn&#8217;t know how precious he is. So, we tell him, we don&#8217;t eat after the afikoman. I remember one time, when I left for Eretz Yisroel, my sweetest Dari gave me some chocolate to eat. I didn&#8217;t want to eat anything after that, until I got off the plane, becuase it was so precious. Precious is so beautiful, it&#8217;s deeper than beautiful. Precious is so good, it&#8217;s deeper than good. Adam and Eve thought that the highest level is good. Tree of Life is preciousness. &#8220;Ushmartem es haMatzos,Watch over the Matza.&#8221; We don&#8217;t eat everything else after the afikoman, because it is so precious.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Do you know how precious every Jew is? Every Jew is so precious. Gevalt, is every Jew precious.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />I wish you and me and all of us a good seder night, a precious seder night. I bless us to all to be completely there, like in the Mikva, completely there. I bless us all that we not cut each other up into a smaller size than we we. I bless us that Purimdike preciousness (The Jews had joy and happiness and &#8220;Yikar&#8221; &#8212; preciousness) be carried over into Pesach. And into Shavous. I bless us all that this year we be privileged to receive the Torah which is so precious, which is called preciousness&#8230; And I bless us even after we receive the Torah, that there be no Golden Calf in the world that can take us away from our Torah, from our children.<br class="webkit-block-placeholder" />Nowhere else in the world do people clean their house like we do before Pesach. A house in this world does not need that much cleaning. But on Pesach, my house becomes the Third Temple. That is why I must clean this house, not only on this level, but on a higher level, so that it will be a true Temple, holy and beautiful, a gateway to G-d. Pesach I am in heaven, I am in Yerushalayim. I am sitting with my wife and children. I wish you such a Pesach. Good Yom Tov. <span style="font-style: italic" class="Apple-style-span">Transcribed by Rivka Haut for Connections Magazine vol 3 no 1 Brooklyn, 5747. </span>   <span style="font-weight: bold" class="Apple-style-span">Photo </span><span style="font-style: italic" class="Apple-style-span">Grand Rabbi Shlomo Halberstam (1907 –2000) who was the Rebbe of Bobov and was succeeded by his son Rabbi Naftali Halberstam (1931-2005). His teachings were recorded in the book Kerem Shlomo.</span></p>
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		<title>Avraham Avinu: You Never Know how Holy are the People You Meet</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Nov 1986 14:09:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Let me tell you a story. During the Yom Kippur War we were playing in Hadassah Hospital. When a soldier is wheeled in a wheelchair, you know that something, G-d forbid, is wrong with his feet. When a soldier walks in, you look at his hands. So, I see a soldier walk in, a Sephardic boy about eighteen years old. In his ordinary life he must have been a very simple boy! I see that nebech he has no hands. No arms. During the concert, I don&#8217;t know why. I started talking about Avraham Avinu. Suddenly he stops me and says: &#8220;Did you ever see</p>
<p>Avraham Avinu?&#8221; I say: &#8220;No, why do you ask?&#8221; So he says, &#8220;I&#8217;ll tell you later in private. &#8221; After the concert he told me he wanted me to know his story. During the war, he and his friend were in the middle of battle, and they had to retreat a little. He suddenly saw that his friend was shot. His friend couldn&#8217;t move, but he was still alive. So this boy went back and picked him up, put him on his shoulders and ran with him</p>
<p>While he was running with his friend, he was shot himself. Both his arms were shot off. Do you know what he did? He said that even though he didn&#8217;t have strength. He kept his friend on his shoulders. Baruch Hashem. He saved his friend&#8217;s life. But now, he himself has no arms. He said to me: &#8220;I want you to know, Avraham Avinu sits on my bed every night, all night long.&#8221; Avraham Avinu!</p>
<p>How did this simple boy get so much holiness? Imagine if I would learn Torah day and night. For two thousand years, I could not reach that level of holiness. I could not. That is Avraham Avinu&#8217;s holiness.</p>
<p>Everybody asks, when G-d spoke to Avraham for the first time, why didn&#8217;t He tell him to keep Shabbos, to keep kashrut? Why did He immediately tell him, &#8220;Lech lecha -Go thou from thy land, and from thy father&#8217;s house?&#8221; G-d gave over to Avraham Avinu what this soldier knew &#8211; to leave everything behind you for G-d, for Israel, for somebody else. This awesome holiness comes from the deepest depths, from inside. This is what Avraham Avinu is all about.</p>
<p>Avraham Avinu saw everything until Mashiach. He saw this soldier also. He asked G-d, &#8220;How do I know that I shall inherit it&#8230;?&#8221; How can I inherit the holiness of this soldier?</p>
<p>When Mashiach comes it will be revealed to us how holy our children are. You never know, sometimes you see somebody and you don&#8217;t have the faintest idea of how holy they are inside. This is why our generation is so much in touch with the mystical part of the Torah, with the deepest secrets. This generation contains people who, from outside, look like nothing and yet, inside, they are completely holy.</p>
<p><em>Excerpted from: THE HOLINESS OF ERETZ YISRAEL 5746<br />
By Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach, Brooklyn, NY 5746. (Transcribed by Rivka Haut)</em></p>
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		<title>Passover: Afikomen &#8211; When G-d gives every Jew a taste of what they really are</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Mar 1985 08:37:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Seder night lasts one second &#8211; it takes no time. When I have to make up with somebody I do not love, until I make up, it takes so long. When I make up with someone I love so much, it takes no time because we love each other anyway. If we would have been slaves in Egypt, it would have taken a long time to become free. But, the truth is, we were never slaves. We were alwavs free. And, to return to what we really were, took just one second. Seder night is when G-d gives every Jew a taste of what they really are.</p>
<p>Our children don&#8217;t talk to us sometimes because they think we really don&#8217;t see them. Pesach has so much to do with seeing. &#8220;Lo yeiraeh lecha chametz&#8221;. &#8220;You shall not see chametz&#8221; &#8211; don&#8217;t see chametz. People who look at chametz all the time, don&#8217;t see their own neshama (soul), don&#8217;t see their own children, don&#8217;t see G-d. Seder night, when there is no chametz in the house, when the house is clean, then suddenly G-d gives me the vision of seeing my children again, of seeing how they really are and how fast they can reach the highest level.</p>
<p>The saddest day in the life of children is when they are disappointed in their parents. When babies are born, it is clear to them that their parents are the best people in the world. They cannot imagine anybody being better than their father and their mother. Sadly, they grow up and they realize that their parents aren&#8217;t the best. The don&#8217;t want to talk to us anymore. Seder night the Ribbono Shal Olam gives my children back the vision to see, even though at this moment I am not the best I can be,  what I really am, and how fast it will take me to get there. And, then my children are so happy, they love me so much again because it is restoring their vision, the way they remember me.</p>
<p>Why do children love their parents so much? The way children know their parents is in a very deep way. They don&#8217;t know biology, they never read a sex book, but they know this is my father, this is my mother.  Imagine if, when children are born, we would have to take them aside and explain to them the facts of life and why this is their father and this is their mother. How close would they be to us? And, sadly, when they find out how a baby is born, they love us less, because it takes away all the holiness.</p>
<p>An exile Jew is one who has read a book on G-d, on theology, he is a Kabbalist. It&#8217;s like an adult, looking at his parents. Pesach is when we are looking at G-d again, like a baby on the day it&#8217;s born. It&#8217;s not less, it&#8217;s not stupid. It is the highest.</p>
<p>Seder night, G-d gives us back the vision. &#8220;Ani Hashem, Ani velo acher&#8221;. &#8220;I am the Lord, I and no other.&#8221; How beautiful everything is. Howlittle it takes to reach the highest place.</p>
<p>Why do our children steal the afikomon and then give it back to us? There is a lot of talk about it. First of all, what are we giving over to our children? Do you think our children remember everything we say? Do you think my daughter remembers that last year she wanted to turn on the television on shabbos and I told her not to? No. She remembers those moments when I didn&#8217;t say anything. She remembers those holy moments, those secret moments.</p>
<p>Do you think children don&#8217;t know how much we pray for them before they were born? They know everything.</p>
<p>Seder night is when I am giving over Yiddishkeit to my children, I am giving over to them G-d knowledge. The Torah was given later, on Shavuot. G-d knowledge is when it is clear to me, there is nothing to think about &#8211; that is Seder night, So, you know what the children do? They take the afikomon and hide it. And, they tell me, I want you to know what I am taking from you. I am taking from you all the secrets. All the things which nobody knows, I know about them. Sometimes secrets, unholy secrets, the more you tell them, they become unholy, they become profane. Holy secrets, when you tell them to somebody you love very much, become even deeper secrets. My children tell me, you are giving over to me tonight all the hidden things, the deepest depths. Then, I say to my children, please, can you give back a taste of that bread? Can you give me back a little taste of all those holy moments, those deep prayers?</p>
<p>At my Seder, I had the privilege of doing something special. A lot of people eat the afikomon with the teeth of a rasha. They sit there and tell jokes; they talk about the food. I had the privilege to make, at my Seder, a rule that from afikomon on, no one is permitted to talk. They are barely permitted to breathe. it is so holy, because when my children give me back the afikomon, it is not only my afikomon, it is the afikomon of my father, and my mother, and my bubba, and my zaide. It is the afikomon that goes back to Avraham Aveinu.</p>
<p>Everybody knows that when the angels came to visit Avraham Aveinu, it was Seder night. Who stole the afikomon at Avraham&#8217;s Seder? It was the holy mother Sarah who stole the afikomon. Who knows more secrets than our mother Sarah, the secret of secrets? So, the angels said to Avraham, &#8220;Ayeh Sarah ishtecha&#8221;, &#8220;Where is Sarah your wife?&#8221; &#8220;Where is she keeping the afikomon?&#8221; Avraham answered, &#8220;hinei baohel&#8221;, &#8220;Lo, she is in the tent.&#8221; It is all hidden, all hidden away.</p>
<p><em>Brooklyn, 5745 </em></p>
<p><em>Edited from Connections Magazine Vol 1 No 2</em></p>
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		<title>Purim: And Esther wrote &#8211; The role of Women in Judaism</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Mar 1985 14:35:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Reb Shlomo explains why the Torah of Purim is even deeper that the Torah of Mount Sinai? The Torah of Mount Sinai is Face to Face. G-d talks to us. He looks at us. Deeper than this is the Torah of Purim. It gives us a taste of how much G- d is thinking about us, even when we don't directly feel it. The Torah of Face to Face can be given over by a rebbe. The Torah of Purim can only be truly taught by men and women together.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One of the saddest things in the world, in my world,  that breaks my heart, is that on the one hand I would like our daughters, our mothers, to  be so Jewish and so holy, so exalted, and yet, when you meet those women  who really are so holy and so beautiful and you start talking with them,  you realize that they are so empty inside. Gevaldt are they empty.</p>
<p>When I  walk into a place, the moment I start saying Divrei Torah (words of  Torah), naturally the women take off, because they are not sitting  together with the men. They are sitting separate. The men are listening.  The women are already talking, about bagels, earrings. When it comes to  singing, our holy sisters don&#8217;t join us. They sit there and talk to each  other, It&#8217;s heartbreaking. You know what we need, absolutely need, we  need to cry and beg our holy, so to speak frum, mothers and frum sisters,  please, please don&#8217;t put us to shame. Please don&#8217;t put us to shame before  those holy young women who are coming back to Yiddishkeit, who are so  sensitive to what&#8217;s going on in life. I&#8217;ll tell you something, something  heartbreaking. You know what happens to religious girls who go to  college? In every subject in the world they are very deep, You can talk to  them about anything in the world. Yet, When it comes to Torah, they are so  shallow. It&#8217;s not fair. It isn&#8217;t fair.</p>
<p>Our generation has to fix two things. We have not fixed the relationship between Adam and Eve, and we have not fixed the  relationship between Cain and Abel, between Jews and non-Jews.  Basically, the same people who don&#8217;t know how to relate to women also  don&#8217;t know how to relate to non-Jews.</p>
<p>There was a time that men and women didn&#8217;t live in the same world. It&#8217;s not true anymore. We are living in the same world, In 1959, when I  came to Eretz Yisrael for the first time, I was a bachelor, walking into a  Beis Midrash in Meah Shearim, and someone asked me if I was married. I  said no. He said, &#8220;I have a wonderful shidduch (match) for you. Come back  next Monday.&#8221; I came back Monday, and he asked me, &#8220;Do you speak  Hungarian?&#8221; I said, &#8220;No.&#8221; He said, &#8220;The girl I want you to marry only speaks  Hungarian.&#8221; I said, &#8220;O.K., no more shidduch.&#8221; He looked at me and said,  &#8220;Why? What do you have to talk to her about? Unbelievable.</p>
<p>Maybe there was a time when a man sat at the table alone, and his wife sat in the kitchen, Friday night and this was holy. Today, if a person  doesn&#8217;t sit with his wife and children, with his daughters, at the table,  it&#8217;s a criminal offense. This girl who eats in the kitchen, the moment she  is old enough to get out from her father&#8217;s stupidity, might very well leave  Yiddishkeit.</p>
<p>The deepest secret of life is that everything is the same, and yet, every thing has to become better. I keep everything my bubba did, and yet I am  one step ahead. One step ahead. Reb Nachman said that G-d cannot stand  the same thing twice. People can&#8217;t either.</p>
<p>Yentas, we have plenty of. The women who stand all day in the kitchen, we have had this for a few generations. The Ribbono Shel Olam (G-d) needs  now strong women who stand an their feet, and learn. Who know what  Yiddishkeit is all about. Who can give it over to their children. The most  heartbreaking thing in the world is that the Rabbis, who think they have to  guard the old tradition, actually refuse to realize that you only guard the  old tradition if you are aware of what&#8217;s going on today &#8211; if you add. The  new doesn&#8217;t have to conflict with old; it can enrich it.</p>
<p>What about giving aliyot (being called to the Torah) to women? I&#8217;ll tell you an unbelievable story. I gave a concert in Paris. After the concert, a  beautiful young lady came up to me and said, &#8220;I want to tell you my story,  I come from a Chassidic home in Boston. I like to paint, to draw. I managed  to get to college, despite my father, and I got a scholarship to Paris. I left  and didn&#8217;t write to my parents. I had no money, so when a non-Jew asked  me to move into his house I did. I lived with him for four years, and he  asked me to marry him. This non-Jew asked my to marry him, and I was  overjoyed. Sunday morning, I was supposed to be baptized, and Sunday  night, the wedding. For me, Shabbos didn&#8217;t exist anymore, so the Shabbos  before, I went shopping. Crazily enough, I passed by the Reform Synagogue,  the same Reform Synagogue that, three years ago, was bombed by the  P.L.O. I passed by that synagogue and, I don&#8217;t know why, I walked in. They  were just reading the Torah. Suddenly, the shammos (beadle) came to me  and offered me an aliyah. I want you to know, I was religious when I was  young. Nobody ever gave me an aliyah. When they called up my name to the  Torah, it was clear to me that G-d was calling me. When I made the bracha  (blessing) over the Torah, I swore to G-d that I&#8217;ll be a Jewish daughter  again. I came out from shul, I called up my boyfriend, and I told him that I  was just in shul, and I heard a voice from heaven tell me that I shouldn&#8217;t  do it. And I didn&#8217;t.&#8221;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s all very beautiful to say that we should not give women aliyot. The Satmar Rebbitzen doesn&#8217;t need an aliyah. But, there are a lot of holy  women today who need an aliyah.</p>
<p>I want to tell you one more story. I was on a plane from London to Tel Aviv. I saw a Rosh Yeshiva of one of the biggest yeshivat, and next to him  was a very beautiful non-religious girl, and next to her was her mother.  The Rosh Yeshiva was talking to her. I said, &#8220;Rebbe, I want to talk to you  straight. Tell me the sad truth, If you would sit next to a girl who was  educated by you, would you have something to talk to her about? Why do  you talk to that girl? Sadly enough, the sad truth is, because she is not a  religious girl.&#8221; Isn&#8217;t that heartbreaking? Does a girl have to be non- religious in order for you to be able to talk to her? Don&#8217;t you want your  daughter to be a little bit like her?</p>
<p>I was sitting on a train, going from Tel-Aviv to Haifa, and there were a hundred little kids from a religious school on the train. The kids knew me  and said, &#8220;Hey, sing something for us.&#8221; Little kids, they are so sweet, their  eyes were shining, they were glowing. I took out my guitar and started  singing, one niggun after another. I asked them, &#8220;Where is your teacher?&#8221;  She was sitting there by the window looking out. I walked up to her and  said, &#8220;I envy you, to have such children to teach.&#8221; She wouldn&#8217;t look at me,  wouldn&#8217;t talk to me. I thought, this is crazy. is this called frum? Those  kids were so happy, and she would not be a part of it.</p>
<p>Two weeks ago, I was some place where there were only religious people. I was singing and then I told two stories. Three religious women  came up and said to me, &#8220;Why do you talk so much? Why don&#8217;t you just  sing?&#8221; They didn&#8217;t understand a word I was saying. The stories didn&#8217;t  touch them.</p>
<p>All the redeemers of Israel were men, with the exception of Purim, where we have a man and a woman. Obviously, Esther must have had some  class. She was educated by Mordechai. To be queen of the world, of 127  medinot (lands). She had to have some class.</p>
<p>The Midrash says that Rabbi Akiva was saying Torah on every letter, on every tag (crown) of the Torah. Some of his students said, &#8220;Why must  you bother with  all that? The letters, the tagin, what do we need  it for?&#8221;  Rabbi Akiva was master of the Torah She-Beal-Peh (the oral Torah).There  are Torahs that you need in life so much. What is the Tree of Knowledge?  The Tree of Knowledge is where I  know what to do about everything, but  there  is some kind of inner knowledge that is beyond words, deeper than  words. This is what kingdom is all about. A king has some inside stuff,  deep, deep stuff. Everybody knows that Sarah is even deeper than Avraham.  G-d told Avraham, &#8220;Listen to whatever Sarah tells you.&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p><em>Midrash Rabah 58.3 &#8211; Rabbi Akiva was sitting and teaching and his students were dozing. He wanted to rouse them. He said &#8220;Why was  Esther queen of 127 lands? Since Esther was descended from Sarah who  lived one hundred twenty-seven years, she (Esther) ruled over 127 lands.</em></p></blockquote>
<p>Why then is the prophecy of Sarah not written in the Torah? We get just a little glimpse of her prophecy, that she said to send Yishmael out.  Her prophecy wasn&#8217;t written down. The prophecy of Avraham was in words.  The prophecy of Sarah was in letters, the Torah of Rabbi Akiva, the Torah  She-Beal-Peh.</p>
<p>What are the letters all about? When I get a business letter, the words are important, the letters aren&#8217;t. When I get a love letter, everything is  important. I look at every letter a thousand times.</p>
<p>Maybe our fathers teach us the Torah. But, to love the Torah so much, that every letter is read a thousand times, this comes from our mothers.  So, Rabbi Akiva said, &#8220;Do you know why Esther was the queen of one  hundred twenty-seven lands?&#8221; She must have known something. What did  she know? She knew the Torah of our mother, Sarah. Rashi says that  tzaddikim are &#8220;tamim&#8221;, complete. We live in the world and we don&#8217;t know  if we did what we have to do. The tzaddikim live exactly to finish the  product. When they leave this world, they are a finished product, Avraham  was in the world exactly to finish Avraham. And, it says that it took  exactly one hundred twenty-seven years to finish Sarah. (Sarah lived 127  years.) And her Torah she gave over to Esther.</p>
<p>Everybody knows, the megillah is based on letters. G-d&#8217;s name is not mentioned there on the level of words. His name is mentioned only in  Rashei Teivot (abbreviations). One word begins with &#8220;yod&#8221;, one with &#8220;heh&#8221;,  and so on. Megillat Esther is based on letters. The Torah She-Beal-Peh is  letters. Why is it letters? One sits and looks at the letters, until the  letters begin to reveal the deepest secrets.</p>
<p>Rabbi Akiva was sitting and saying Torah on the letters and even on the tagin, His students said to him, &#8220;Who needs this? You can be a Jew  without it.&#8221; He answered, &#8220;Yes, You can be a Jew without it, but you cannot  be Esther HaMalka (the queen) without it. You cannot give over G-d to the  world without it.&#8221; On Purim we are told that many people became Jews.  Mordechai and Esther took over the world. The world knew then that Jews  are holy, that G-d is holy.</p>
<p>And, the way we teach the world is not with words. it has to be deeper than that. Non-Jews also have the written Torah, but they are still non- Jews. Torah She-Beal-Peh is the deepest knowledge of G-d. It is the  knowledge of every letter, of every word.</p>
<p>The utmost redemption of the world can only be Adam and Eve together. Our downfall was that Adam and Eve split. The real redemption of Purim  is that Mordechai and Esther were doing something together.</p>
<p>I want to tell you something so heartbreaking Today, in our religious circles, the husband goes to shul, the wife stays home. He does this, she  does something else. It may be beautiful, but it is not Purim, it is not the  redemption of the world. It is not what brings Moshiach. Today, thank G-d,  in the non-religious world, women get stronger and stronger. We have to  get behind the wheel and step on the gas a little bit. We have already lost  80% of our daughters. We shall lose, G-d forbid, 100%, if we don&#8217;t do  something about it. Yes, we&#8217;ll always have some frum girls, but they will  be like the woman in Toronto who told me that unless you talk about  something like kashrut, my learning won&#8217;t be popular.</p>
<p>You know what is so special about Purim? On Purim we don&#8217;t have time to learn. We send shalach manos, we get drunk. The revelation that G-d  reveals to us on Purim is so deep. Someone wrote a sheilah (question) to  the holy Ostrovitzer. He said that he got shalach manos from a person who  was not so religious, and he asked if he was permitted to eat it. The Rebbe  answered something very beautiful.What is the whole idea of shalach  manos, he asked? The whole story of Esther began because the Jews ate at  the feast of Achashverosh. Every Jew accused every other Jew of eating  treif. So, Esther said to Mordechai, &#8220;Go and gather all the Jews.&#8221; Forget  what we ate yesterday. From now on, all the Jews will be together. The  idea of Purim is that from now on, every Jew says to every other Jew, &#8220;I  trust you that you are kosher. I trust you.&#8221; By that we bring Moshiach.</p>
<p>Woe unto those who don&#8217;t eat shalach manos because they don&#8217;t think they are kosher.</p>
<p>On Purim, the most important thing is for Jews to be together, The Megillah says, &#8220;And Esther wrote.&#8221; Today, if a woman wrote a book, and a  rabbi would say that book should become part of the Torah, all the rabbis  would write teshuvot (response) against it. Yet, Esther was the editor, the  author of the Megillah. Today, a woman cannot even decide if a bakery is  kosher. This is what keeps Moshiach from coming.</p>
<p>A lady once told me, &#8220;I stopped going to shul. The women asked the rabbi if they could hold the Torah, and he said no. I watched the men. They  were talking, sleeping &#8211; there was no kavanah (meaning). If we women  would have held the Torah, it would have been so holy, so exalted. Who is  the rabbi, to keep us from serving G-d?&#8221;</p>
<p>We are so concerned with the words. Where is Rabbi Akiva&#8217;s Torah, the Torah of Esther, the queen of the world?</p>
<p>We are living in a world where 65% of our young people intermarry. When I was in San Francisco, in 1959, 1 felt right now was the time to  create a different kind of yeshiva, to get our kids back. I had two  responses. One great rabbi told me to forget it. The other said I was being  stupid, a comedian. What was I talking about? That man is now the head of  a well-known yeshiva for Baalei Teshuva.</p>
<p>We need Chanukah and Purim together, We need to add. We must stop being afraid of adding. What is so terrible if our sisters want to add  Torah? Torah She-Beal-Peh is the Torah of your mother.&#8221; Adding is not  changing. We need Chanukah, and we need Purim also. We need &#8220;And Esther  wrote.&#8221; Give Esther a chance.</p>
<p>In my shul, we have four Sifrei Torah. On Simchat Torah, we give one to the women. One year, a man said to me, &#8220;What&#8217;s going on here? This  apikorsut (heresy), to allow women to carry a Torah.&#8221; I said to him, &#8220;If our  women are good enough to carry our children for nine months, they are  good enough to carry a Safer Torah for a few minutes.</p>
<p>When you love somebody very much, you think about them even when they are not there. This is shalach manos; it is telling somebody that you  are sending them your love, your thoughts, even when they are not there.</p>
<p>The gemara says, &#8220;Esther is Hester Panim&#8221; (the hiding of the Presence of G-d. G-d&#8217;s -name is not mentioned in the Megillah). Purim is when we  don&#8217;t see G-d. Do we know how much G-d thinks of us, especially when He  is not looking? Do you know why G-d is not mentioned in the Megillah? The  Megillah teaches us how much G-d loves us, even when He is not when He  is not showing it at that moment, when He seems to be hiding. When you  love a person, the real test of the love is how much do you think about  them when you don&#8217;t see them. The test of a Jew in exile is how much G-d  thinks about us, and we think about Him, even when we are not close.</p>
<p>Why is the Torah of Purim even deeper that the Torah of Mount Sinai? The Torah of Mount Sinai is Face to Face. G-d talks to us. He looks at us.  Deeper than this is the Torah of Purim. It gives us a taste of how much G- d is thinking about us, even when we don&#8217;t directly feel it. The Torah of  Face to Face can be given over by a rebbe. The Torah of Purim can only be  truly taught by men and women together.</p>
<p>At the beginning of a wedding, the groom covers his bride&#8217;s face. All day long they are on the level of Yom Kippur. When he covers her face, they  reach the level of Purim. The groom is saying to the bride, I am giving  over to you all of my love, even when I don&#8217;t see you.</p>
<p>Do you know why children keep their eyes closed when they are born? They want to taste how much their parents love them when they don&#8217;t see  them.</p>
<p>I want to tell everyone please, send shalach manos to your wives, to your husbands, to your children. Sometimes we forget to send shalach  manos to the people closest to us.</p>
<p>I want to tell you one more thing. I would like to see, in the religious world, a man saying Torah at the table, and a woman saying Torah. I would  like to see, &#8220;And Esther wrote&#8221; &#8211; a woman&#8217;s Torah. I would like to see a  man and a woman, both saying Torah, Friday night at the table.</p>
<p>There are two holidays where basically everyone can do their own thing. On Chanukah, there are many different customs about lighting  candles. The Sephardim have different customs than the Ashkenazim. This  is considered beautiful. On Purim, there are different days possible for  Megillah reading &#8211; the 12th, the 13th, 14th, days of Adar, or the 15th,  Sushan Purim, depending on where a person lives.</p>
<p>Do you know the difference between a restaurant and a hospital? In a restaurant, there is one menu, and everybody eats the same food. In a  hospital, everybody gets different medicine made especially for them.  Torah is the same. The Torah She-bechtav (written Torah) is the same for  everyone. The Torah She-Beal-Peh has to be different for every person. We  are living in a sick world. The gemara says that, on Yom Kippur, if a doctor  says you are well, and you say you are sick, you are permitted to eat.  Everybody knows themselves best.</p>
<p>The Torah of Hester Panim (the hiding of G-d&#8217;s face) is when, G-d forbid, things are hidden. Give Jews a chance to have their own  connections with the Torah. In most shuls, women cannot kiss the Torah. I  know that in those shuls that do allow women to kiss the Torah, for some  women, their whole Yiddishkeit began when they first kissed the Torah.  It&#8217;s so important.</p>
<p>The story of Esther teaches that sometimes there is a kind of Torah in which G-d&#8217;s name is not even mentioned, it&#8217;s hidden, but it&#8217;s there.  Everybody has his own connection to Yiddishkeit. I&#8217;m afraid to tell anybody  else, this is my connection, this is what I like the most. That is why I  send shalach manos; I do not deliver it face to face. I say, I want you to  know, whatever your connection to Yiddishkeit is, you don&#8217;t have to tell  me, but I want you to know that I am connected to the same thing. We are  all connected to the same place.</p>
<p>At the House of Love and Prayer, in California, as a  rule I did not give aliyot to women, But, when girls asked for an aliyah, I give it to them. I  saved many girls from the abyss of assimilation because I was strong  enough to give them aliyot.</p>
<p>Purim is when we realize that Torah is not only food. Torah is medicine. On Purim I am getting drunk with the Torah, The difference between food  and wine is very simple. When you eat food, you don&#8217;t have to be happy.  But, when you drink wine, you glow with it. On Purim  you glow.</p>
<p>All year long, I learn Torah. It gives  me life; like food, it keeps me going. On Purim, I want different Torah. I want Torah that touches every  secret in my heart. I want Torah that connects me to every Jew. I want  Torah that strengthens my friendships, my relationships with every Jew.  &#8220;Go and gather together all the Jews.&#8221;  That is the essence of Purim.</p>
<p>My dearest friends, I hope you understood what I said to you. In order to keep Yiddishkeit alive, we desperately need synagogues that do not give  aliyot to women and we also desperately need synagogues that do give  aliyot to women.</p>
<p>Everybody knows that the downfall of the world is Loshon Hora, The gemara says Hamen is the master of Loshon Hora. Mordechai and Esther are  masters of -non-Loshon Hora. On Purim, we do not send shalach manos  face to face; we are telling each other &#8220;even behind your back, I shall not  speak evil about you.&#8221;</p>
<p>G-d is opening so many gates. When will we have enough courage to help each other find the right gates? Gevaldt, brothers, and sisters, we need so  much for ourselves, but we need so much more for our beautiful children.  On Purim, it says, whoever holds out his hand, should receive something.  So, this Purim, let it be that all that we need is given to us, and let a  great miracle happen to us &#8211; that as G-d sees us holding out our hands and  begging, so should we see G-d&#8217;s hand to give to him who he needs. For us,  for Israel, and for the world, Good Purim everyone! Good Purim!</p>
<p><em>Brooklyn, 5745 Reprinted from Connections Magazine Vol 1 No 1</em></p>
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		<title>Ruth: the soul that really died for people</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Shavuos, the revelation on Mt. Sinai, is also the day of the passing away of King David. On that day we read the story  of Ruth, his grandmother, Elimelech, a descendant of our father Judah, and a very rich Jew, was the high judge during a famine in Israel. He took his wife Naomi, and his two sons,  Nahlon and Chilion, and went to Moab. There Nahlon and Chilion married the two daughters of the king of Moab, Ruth and Orpah. Then Elimelech, Mahon, and Chilion all died and the family lost all their money, so Naomi decided to go back to Israel, where the famine had already ended. Her two daughters in-law walked with her, and both of them said, &#8220;I want to go with you, but Ruth meant it, and Orpah just said it. So Orpah stayed behind, and Ruth went with Naomi.</p>
<p>In Israel, in former good days, the four corners of the field belonged to the poor. The law is very strong; it&#8217;s not that you cut off the corners of the field and give it to the poor, because then it is yours, and you are giving it away. You can&#8217;t cut the four comers; they don&#8217;t belong to you.It is the poor man&#8217;s field. Another law is when you gather from the field, if you forget something you are not allowed to go back. If something falls it also doesn&#8217;t belong to you. So, when Ruth and Naomi came back to Israel Ruth went to gather food, and by divine providence she went to the field of Boaz, who was actually a cousin to her husband. Boaz came to look at his field, and he saw a very, very beautiful woman; not just beautiful, in every way shining. He asked who she was, and his workers told him she was a princess of Moab who came to Israel, poor now. He said to the workers, Please make sure that a lot is forgotten, and a lot falls down, and during lunchtime, when you eat, give her some olives, some bread. The Torah says that the Moabite is not to be accepted into the congregation of Israel. Only if a Moabite converts, then after three generations he can become  part of Israel. Why? It says because he did not bring you bread and water when you went into the desert.&#8221; Who was the tribe of Moab? Moab was the son of the daughter of Lot.  Lot the nephew was the of Abraham. Abraham rescued Lot from Sodom by his prayers. That means Moab owed its whole existence to Abraham. Moab had a chance to pay back to the Jews what they owed them, what they owed father Abraham, by bringing them bread and water in the desert. In those days who was to bring bread and water? Only the men. In those days women wouldn&#8217;t go out of the house to bring bread end water to the desert. Suddenly, on the very day, the very instant that Ruth and Naomi crossed the border, the high court in Jerusalem started discussing the law which says a Moabite cannot come into the congregation of lsrael. They said this means the male Moabite not the female, because she cannot be accused of not bringing bread and water. This became the new law.</p>
<p>In former good days the law was that if someone died, leaving a wife without children, someone in the family had to marry her. The day after the court decision Boaz said, &#8220;Someone has to do somthing for this girl. Someone has to marry her.&#8221; There was one man who was a closer relative than Boaz, but that man was super-holy, and he said, &#8220;No, I couldn&#8217;t marry a girl who was converted. I know the holy court decided the woman Moabite is O.K. but I am not so sure about the holy court.&#8221; Boaz said, &#8220;O.K. then, I am next.&#8221; Boaz married her, but the very sad thing is that Boaz died the next morning. That means he was married to Ruth for only one night. The Zohar says the reason Boaz came into the world was for just that one night. Ruth had a son, Obed; Obed had a son Yeshai, and Yeshai had a son David, the king of Israel, the ancestor of Messiach.</p>
<p>O.K. now, who was this woman, Ruth? Our father Abraham, had two star pupils. One was Lot, his nephew, and the other was Chedorlaomer. Abraham was really giving; that was his message to the world. Suddenly his star pupil, Chedorlaomer, turns around and becomes the king of Sodom, where the law was that if you were were caught giving something to the poor you were killed. If you killed someone, you were rewarded. If you hit someone you got paid. Everything completely perverted &#8230; and Chedorlaomer became the king! A few months later the second star pupil of Abraham, Lot, took off also and became the high judge of Sodom. This was the end for Abraham. The Zohar says that after Lot left was the first time that Abraham really prayed for a son, because all the time he had thought, &#8220;I have two sons, maybe not physically my sons, but they are spiritualy my sons. After they left he realized he had to have ason who would really continue. Listen to this. Who was the real star pupil of Abraham? The real star pupil of Abraham was a little girl, the daughter of Lot. She really absorbed all of Abraham&#8217;s teaching. When her father went to Sodom she didn&#8217;t want to go along, but what could she do? After she came to Sodom the most horrible thing happened. The poor wouldn&#8217;t die in the streets anymore. The Sodomites couldn&#8217;t find who was feeding them. This went on for a long time. If you remember the story, two angels came to Abraham and one of them said, &#8220;God sends word to you: Her crying reaches Me, and I am going to destroy Sodom.&#8221; The other angel told Abraham he would have a son, Isaac. The Zohar asks what &#8220;her&#8221; crying is, who is this &#8220;she&#8221;? The answer is that day in Sodom the little girl was caught giving a piece of broad to a poor man. The Sodomites poured honey all over her and they put her on the roof, and she was eaten by the bees. This is the most painful death anyone can be subjected to.</p>
<p>When the time is right, God works fast. The next day Sodom was destroyed, and Abraham needs another star pupil, Isaac. Although Isaac was very holy, be was ready to die for G-d, he doesn&#8217;t compare to that girl. That girl died for giving a poor man a piece of bread. Tne Zohar Kodesh says that the soul of that girl came back to the world, and she was Ruth. So Messiach is the descendant of those two star pupiIs, Isaac, who was ready to die for G-d, and Ruth, the soul that really died for people. That&#8217;s the story.</p>
<p><em>House of Love and Prayer, San Francisco. Sivan, 5732. Reprinted from Holy Beggar&#8217;s Gazette, vol 1 no 3.</em></p>
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